What\'s Really Important About Marriage in America?

Well as I am sure you have read, the state has made its decision on gay marriages, stating that it is unconstitutional and it is not what marriage is supposed to be. Being raised a Catholic, I always thought marriage was supposed to be between two people who loved each other, wanted to start a family together, and spend the rest of their lives together. However, marriage in this country has become everything but that it seems; marriage in this country is a status for the pompous white collar workers who want to make an impression on the higher-ups. Yet Americans continue to pass judgement on what constitutes a "marriage" when we allow all sorts of unconventional and distorted marriages to take place everyday.

I think by continuing to let couples marry for the wrong reason-which has basically desecrated the idea of marriage then future generations will keep destroying the sacredness of love and monogamy. Divorce rates in this country are already abominiable, so what would improve American marriages? Perhaps if it is legal for people to marry each other for the right reason (isn't love what marriage is about afterall?), we can rescue the idea that marriage is a serious and special commitment between two people.

Between the Anna Nicole Smiths who marry old men for money, the Britney Spears' who get hitched in Vegas for fun, the Hugh Hefners looking for young trophy wives, immigrants marrying for green cards, this country should not even have an opinion on marriage! The very people voting on these laws are the same people who are involved in sex scandals right now, humiliating their spouses in front of the nation with online sex sites and bathroom sex romps!

Perhaps the idea on marrying for love isn't a bad one, maybe it is something that should be considered. Because the message now is that marriage is between a man and a woman no matter what the terms are for the marriage. The most important part of American marriage is the sex of the individuals involved and not the marriage part itself.

I mean if we really went all the way back in time to the origin of marriage, it was more like a bartering system for men to exchange "goods." Since the wife was basically necessary for housekeeping and reproduction, she could be sought through the same means as cattle for milk or sheep for wool. Marriage to some degree fluctuates with the time period, it is now time to improve that idea again

All Men Are Created Equal?

New York State is awaiting the decision on Gay Marriages from the Senate, a decision that if not passed will be a huge embarrassment for New York State. Many people still tend to vote based on their own religious beliefs instead of what is good for the nation as a whole. But we seperated church and state for a reason. No one should be allowed to judge how other people live. In fact, catholics are supposed to believe that only god judges and people do not. However, catholics continue to judge others in this city and go against their own beliefs.

Let's forget the idea that all people should be allowed to choose how to live, of course omitting any life choices that break laws (by inflicting harm on others). Let's not think about the fact that this country was founded by people who wanted the freedom to pursue their own religions and cultures and now want to deny others those same freedoms!

So, with all that forgotten we can focus on the more important issue that involves gay marriages, which is the issue of civil rights. Because there are many groups of people in this country who know what it is like to be inferior to others, who have had to fight for basic freedoms, then these groups of people should be all the more involved in the basic rights of others as well. What Americans don't seem to understand is that civil rights for one group of people means a step in the right direction for the civil rights of ALL groups of people.
As a woman who knows what it is like to be considered inferior, who has read about the history of women who have had to struggle and then be punished and tortured just for desiring to be considered an individual, and who still has to deal with these ignorant prejudices against the female sex, I would not support laws that continue to limit the rights of human beings based on their sex, ethnicity, religion, or sexual orientation. So many groups of people have suffered already, we should not to be part of the patriarchal elite who think that they can make laws that dictate the lives of other Americans. It is time that old fashioned ideas die and a newer, better America is born.